Controlling the Fears in Your Life.

Fear is an incredible force that can stop us reaching our potential. Have you ever had an experience where you have been crippled with fear, so that you cannot move? Fear is a very real factor in our everyday life and fear is a natural protection for us and in this respect it is a good thing.

But Negative Fear has a shutdown power over our creativity that stops us achieving our potential.

Fear can have a paralysing effect upon us that stops mobility and causes wrong choices to be made.

Fear has been known to confine people to a life of suffering and misery, by locking into their brain that a certain fear is real e.g. phobias (meaning: irrational fears)

Fear can only be real when we give it the power to be real.

There Are Two Types Of Fear÷

Healthy Fear:
Fear of falling or hurting ourselves, preservation of life, fear of imminent danger, fear of the unknown.

Unhealthy Fear:
There are many phobias which often start off being protective fear but then they become controlling fears. These fears will often crush, damage and restrict your living, so that you cannot live a normal life, because this thing is always there controlling you. Personally I had a huge fear of being up high on anything.

When I was a kid my brother and sister would get up onto our barn on the family farm that was situated right on top of a hill. When on this barn the view was 360 degrees looking over Wynyard, Somerset, Burnie, Yolla, St.Valentines Peak, and Black Bluff. It was a beautiful view.

I was too scared to get up on the barn; I just could not do it. So one day I made up my mind I would overcome this fear by climbing a tall tower. I climbed up half way and froze. I was there a long time until I got the courage to climb down. It was a terrifying experience. But I think the experience made me so much more determined to overcome this fear somehow. About 4 or 5 weeks later I got up the courage to try again. This time I was really determined as I had thought about it, how I would work through this fear thing.

I got up to the same place on the tower as last time and stared feeling just like I did last time. Because I had made a determined effort in my mind I was able to press on. I went right up through the tower. I was shaking but I was determined to get there so I pressed on. Eventually I got to the top of that tower and sat right on the very pinnacle of it for about 10 minutes. I looked around at what I could see and enjoyed the pleasure of seeing things from high up. From that day to this I have not had any problem with heights. (Please note I do not recommend that you have to climb up a tower. What I am saying that you have to face your fears head on with a mindset that you are going to get the victory over the fear.)

Fear is a form of anxiety triggered by something in your surroundings. If the situation is a real threat – e.g. you’re being attacked - fear is a completely sensible and appropriate reaction. However phobias, the fear is inappropriate because you have an exaggerated or unrealistic idea about the harmfulness of the situation.

If you have a phobia, you may realise that your fear is out of proportion to the true danger or threat, but you can’t control or explain it. Phobias can be very long-lasting and can cause problems ranging from slight disruption of your life to substantial disability.

Phobias are unrelenting, irrational fears of certain objects or situations. They can occur in several forms; the fear can focus on a particular object (specific phobia) or be a fear of embarrassment in a public setting (social phobia).

People who have phobias are often so overwhelmed by their anxiety that they avoid the feared objects or situations.

Specific phobias involve a fear of an object or situation, such as small animals, height, snakes, closed-in spaces, or flying in an airplane.

Social phobia is the fear of being humiliated in a social setting, such as when meeting new people, giving a speech, talking to the boss or person in authority. Most people experience these fears with mild to moderate intensity and the fear passes. For people with social phobia, however, the fear is extremely intrusive and can disturb their normal life, interfering with work or social relationships in varying degrees of hindrance.

Once we are released from the paralysing fear we can experience a greater freedom in our life. While we remain oppressed by fear we can never reach our full potential or realise our dreams. Fears keep us in a negative framework of thinking that restricts our creative nature to develop and be fulfilled.

As I have mentioned earlier to deal with a negative in our life, write out a list and deal with each one individually and purposefully. Remember that we need to break down our fears into a manageable size then make up our mind that we are going to address it positively and overcome it. Work through each one until they are all under your control and watch out for the next time you are tested. You will need to remember that you have now overcome that fear.

Fears need to be challenged so that we are free from their powers to control us. It is not easy to overcome something that we have believed for long time but it can be done.

It takes GUTS and DETERMINATION to get through these negative obstacles in life. But what a joy of fulfilment and satisfaction one receives having worked through a difficulty and getting the victory over it.

For a comprehensive list of Phobia’s from A to Z Click Here.

Do You Have Fears In Your Life That Stop You From Reaching For The Stars?

Where on the scale below would you say you are right now
Lowest 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Highest
What would it take to move you one number higher?

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(It is important that you include your answer on the line)

Seeing that you can’t write your answer here. I would suggest that you download the word document from the link below.

This would also allow you to add notes about thoughts and feelings that you could review at a later date and see if or how they have changed.

Click to Download as a Word Document.
Note: If you are using Windows 7 and you Click On ‘Open’
you may get this.

Just click on Cancel and the download should continue.